The Youth Trust has been working on the Isle of Wight for over 28 years and has made a positive input to the wellbeing of people locally. The Trust is a charitable, independent organisation offering counselling, advice, information and support services to young people aged 25 and under on the Isle of Wight and, in some cases their parents or carers. The services provided are delivered by an experienced and qualified team who follow the National Guidelines for Counselling, offering a fast, flexible and confidential service to young people who are experiencing difficulties.
Here’s the story of Katie, aged 14, who has been helped by the Trust.
Ben’s parents were very concerned about his behaviour at school, he had been excluded from school for two weeks as he had kicked a teacher and thrown a chair at a nother teacher. On several occasions he had also began fights with other pupils in the school playground. The school had threatened that if his behaviour did not improve he could be permanently excluded from school. At home he had also tried to punch his Mother, smashed a mirror in his bedroom and put his fist through his bedroom door. His Mother was scared of his behaviour and both his parents were struggling to manage their son.
Ben’s parents visited their GP who referred Ben to the Youth Trust for counselling.
Ben’s family had moved around the country with his Father’s work since he had begun school. Ben explained to me how he had found it very difficult to settle in any one place and make friends. He also told me that he was dyslexic and was diagnosed with A ttention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, ADHD. He talked about being bullied at all of the schools he had attended, but had never had the courage to either tell his parents or the teachers. It seemed he was also very protective of his younger brother and was worried that he too would be bullied. So, to help his younger brother he would ‘fight off’ any other pupil he thought could be causing his young brother problems.
Ben was clearly a very angry, frustrated and upset young man. In our sessions we talked at length about his experiences of bullying and how others behaviour towards him was unacceptable. This was the first time Ben had talked about being bullied and the relief of sharing his pent up emotions was palpable. We explored how he could manage his ang er more affectively, and we looked at techniques and ways in which he could deal with this anger that wouldn’t result in the problems he was experiencing. We talked about difference and how others might find it difficult to understand difference, such as Ben’s dyslexia and ADHD. We also discussed how it would be to tell his parents and teachers about the bullying he was experiencing and how it was ok to get help.
Ben made such wonderful progress in counselling. By the end of our sessions his behaviour at school and at home had improved significantly. The improvement in the relationship with his parents was considerable, he was able to talk to them about what was going on at school, and with their help and the schools, he felt school life was no longer intolerable for him. He was also beginning to form new friendships as those around him no longer feared or misunderstood him.
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You can learn more about the trust from the official website www.iowyouthtrust.org